The Soul Poet
Emotional Freedom is just a step away...
So today I'm celebrating a couple of things...one, it's my 14th wedding anniversary to the most amazing man I've ever had the honor to share life's journeys with. He's funny, so very smart, a true partner in every sense of the word, still SO handsome to me (grows more handsome every day with that little touch of gray settling in), and unbelievably the man I still enjoy waking up to each day! And yet, today marks something else - not because of the date itself, but because IN this celebration of our wedding, I also realized HOW MUCH we have renewed ourselves over and over through the last nearly 17 years together.
We've renewed our hearts - to fall in love again after we were both married and divorced once before.
We've renewed our faith in those trying times when we weren't sure who we were, individually or together, and whether or not we would weather the storms that hit all relationships at one point or another.
We've renewed our child-like wonder and awe by laughing and being silly every day - even when seriousness pulled us in and wanted to take over - oh no you didn't! And yet, we wouldn't allow it, for it's our very silly and childlike qualities coming out, through our adult bodies, that make us laugh and enjoy life itself.
We've renewed our trust in a love that could last, even when the pain was all around us from relationships we saw falling apart.
We've renewed our ability to honor each other even when we are coming from the opposite ends of the universe...yes, not just planet, but universe! ;)
We've renewed our belief that it might take work and nurturance, but a relationship truly can grow together from a single seed of love.
We've renewed our hope that life will only give us that which we put into it and so we put in a lot, hope for a little, and are overjoyed with all we receive - in pure gratitude and appreciation.
We've renewed our willingness to fight for what we believe in - even when that's just a deeper belief in ourselves and each other so that we may uplift and empower the other to strive to be a grander version of ourselves each day.
We've renewed our vision - one that holds a future so bright and full of possibility that we can truly never go astray from it - even when life seems to throw a curve - we duck and cover quite well and then course correct.
We've renewed our desire to see the world and ALL of its inhabitants (humans, animals, all of expressions of life) living in joy and peace, even when the chaos swirls around us and wants to suck us in...and again, not gonna happen.
But really, the truth is, we've just renewed our belief that life is meant to be full of the light and dark, the shadows and the sun, the up and the down, and the love that we are...from our very cores.
And so as we're coming into Spring in a couple of weeks, please remember, Spring is a time of renewal. A time of cleansing and awakening from the darkness of the wintry months of hibernation into the eternal birthing of life as it renews on planet Earth and brings sustenance for all to enjoy it's beauty and feed the soul. So come into this Spring feeling ready to renew - your belief in YOU, your trust in the universe, the song of your heart, the poetry of your soul, the willingness of your eyes to see new life emerge as you emerge out of your winter cocoon - whether with someone else or even with yourself - you are your own best friend and it's time to renew that relationship!
Blessing and love always,
So today is Valentine's Day - a day that is set aside to be about romance, love, and showing that expression of love in a "grander" way. But what's interesting is that today isn't really about that one-time BIG show of that love...it's really about reminding us how to feel connected and show that love...on a regular basis.
I had the great honor of being interviewed last night on The Diamond Network Show with Lina Jones on BlogTalk Radio and we talked about how Valentine's Day can affect people, whether they're married, with a partner, or feeling the weight of this day as a single person who longs to have that partner to share this day with. And what was really fascinating about what came out of our conversation, and going back to my previous post about writing your own soul's poetry and living your authentic self, is this...
As human beings, why do some of us place SUCH importance on this ONE day per year to really feel that love from our partners, or even for ourselves, when life is REALLY about learning to BE that love everyday? Why do we give this Valentine's Day SUCH meaning and relevance that, when we don't have a partner, it can affect our self-worth and how we see ourselves as valuable and loveable people? And isn't this "day" of love really just a deeper reminder that we can express that love always...and in all ways...even daily?
So I'd like to offer up something here that I talked about on the show...what if we made today, this Valentine's Day 2017, the FIRST day we commit to showing our expressions of love, whether to a partner or toward ourselves, EVERY DAY from here on out?! What if we ALL chose to express that love by the small things - whether for ourselves or toward that someone we care about - regularly?
Here are some great examples: showing gratitude for something someone said or did for you by saying "Thank you...that meant a LOT to me!" Or telling yourself in the mirror (looking into your OWN eyes - I know, I know, not very comfortable at all for some, but with practice, it'll be an easy thing down the road) something YOU are grateful for about YOU or that you love about yourself and REALLY believe it! Or doing something kind and generous for someone else so that they truly know you're thinking about them! Or any number of other things that you can do daily to let those you love know TRULY how much they mean to you...even when you might not like them too much in that moment.
What if we ALL started this movement of love, with ourselves and others...can you imagine the world we'd live in then? How we would truly be uplifting one another through the "Valentine's Days" that would become EVERY DAY and not just the once-per-year commercialized expression of the love we feel all the time and inherently are? WOW...that would be a world we could dance joyfully in and be happy to share in wouldn't it?
I invite you to EN-JOY today and start your own movement of love - be the poet of your own heart and soul - listen to your own heart's music, create your own choreographed dance in this life of LOVE we all live in and simply BE that expression daily - even when times are a bit rough and we feel like we're on a roller coaster of hell instead of on the one called "LOVE." BE that which you are...and can never NOT be...the world will feel it and we will dance in the joy of it.
Happy Valentine's Day to you all - today and every day!
Wishing you peace and love always,
Poetry has long been seen as a reflection of those deeper heartfelt stirrings of emotional thoughts and awarenesses that lead one down a path to question, reflect, and inquire into the unknown answers of the universe that then spur us to live from a place of truth...whatever that means for each person. And these stirrings then create a compulsion to put pen to paper, or fingers to keyboard, in order to convey the swirling of energy within the soul and share the message with the world. And these messages and meanings hopefully provide insight, freedom from some thought, or even as a challenge to existing limiting beliefs in a way that propels the reader forward on their own journey.
I see "traditional" poetry as a means for giving the soul a voice as well. A voice that is not only part of the collective consciousness, but is as individual and unique as the author of the poetry. So as a Soul Poet, I have learned, over 52 years of life and 20+ years as a therapist and coach, how to help others find THEIR poetry of THEIR soul so they are no longer adopting someone else's composition. And it's not easy...for we ARE social creatures and do find our experiences and perceptions shaping our beliefs and causing us to adopt someone else's ideas of how life "should" be.
So to find the poetry of YOUR own being-ness within, I invite you now, especially within the global climate being what it is around the world today, to ask yourself these three questions:
1. Am I living authentically myself? Honoring who I AM and not who someone else "thinks" I "should" be? And am I doing it with MY voice or someone else's?
2. Am I finding it difficult in challenging times to overcome those limiting beliefs that drowned out the poetry of my own soul, with my own voice, whether I even know if they're truly limiting me or not, but it FEELS as though they are?
3. And if I could have my IDEAL life, what would that look like? Do I even have an idea of that? And if so, what is stopping me?
If you can see a clear picture of your future and realize that you are taking all the internal and external steps to achive this...BRAVO! You have written the poetry of your own soul! Read it in LOVE, with determination to share your messages and spread that to the world, which sorely needs to feel empowered and uplifted right now.
But if you haven't, or are finding it to feel like you don't even know how to write your own soul's poetry, I invite you to look at whose voice you're really listening to...your own or someone else's? And if you have this burning desire for that "something else" that just isn't happening the way you want, click here so we can chat and see how I can assist you in learning to compose the poetry of your own soul and give it voice, so that YOU can live that power-FULL and beautiful YOU I know you are and share with the world ALL you have to offer!!
Dancing in the joy of our poetry together and always with peace and love,
Emotional freedom isn't as scary as we are taught to believe. It's not about removing the feelings and emotions we have and eliminating them forever...it's about learning to move through them in a way that gives us a sense of mastery over them.
Too many times we, as humans, are caught in our thoughts and feelings and they hold us back from living the life we deeply desire. Whether it's finding love, changing careers, leaving a difficult marriage or making a tough decision, or simply wanting to follow that niggling inside that tells us something's "off," but we don't know what and we don't listen because we hear that pain of the emotional mind chatter screaming inside our heads.
And if we've gone through any kind of trauma, well that chatter screams even louder and longer and it's hard to quiet that voice down. But to begin really gaining mastery over how to turn the volume down on that raging voice and train it to become the "friend" it can be versus the "foe" it wants to be, we have to pay attention to a few things first. Below are three steps you can take now to begin learning how to have mastery over your feelings and thoughts:
1. Awareness is really the key to mastery! So, if you struggle with identifying what you're thinking or feeling at any given time, especially when you're caught in the intensity of it, this is the best place to start. Write down all the feelings and thoughts that just won't leave you alone when you are feeling something intensely. Doesn't matter how much you write...just write it all down.
2. This next step may sound silly, but it is important! Acknowledge your thoughts and feelings as being ok. Give yourself permission that it's ok to feel the way you do...even if no one else does! If you're feeling unheard, or underappreciated, or even dismissed by someone, tell yourself it's perfectly "perfect" that you feel what you feel! If you can, looking in the mirror as you give yourself this permission will be even more powerful. The trick here is that in the acknowledging, YOU take your power back for what you're feeling as opposed to laying the blame on someone else. This may come as a surprise, and please don't shoot the messenger here, but NO ONE CAN MAKE YOU FEEL ANYTHING - THEY CAN ONLY TRIGGER WHAT'S ALREADY THERE! So acknowledge...lovingly.
3. Then after you feel comfortable in acknowledging all of your thoughts and feelings, EVEN IF your mind is still questioning this or running a commentary of how/why you feel these feelings or have these thoughts, ask yourself this question: "If my thought or feeling was like a blanket covering up a deeper feeling or emotion underneath, and I just peeled back a tiny little corner of it, what might be hanging out underneath this?"
This may seem difficult at first to do, but I assure you that with practice, it will become easier to identify the pesky thoughts/feelings lingering underneath the surface.
A great example would be: "I'm angry because my partner wasn't listening to me and I need his/her help with this decision." Ok, now look at the fact that you are aware of how you're feeling and what some of your thoughts are (I probably would have been swearing under my breath before I learned how to be friends with my thoughts and feelings when they're intense), you've acknowledged that it's ok to feel what you feel, (whether it's "right or wrong" makes no difference because it's what YOU ARE feeling at that moment that matters!), and now peel back the blanket and whoa...what's really under there when you keep peeling that blanket back? Is it really that you're hurt that your partner was dismissive and didn't seem to care or hear what you felt or thought? BUT, is this THE truth? Or is it just YOUR truth at that moment? Sure, your partner may not have been listening, but it's the meaning you assigned it and doing this exercise again and again will help you destroy the meaning your mind has been taught to believe is THE truth. See how this works?
Practice, be gentle with yourself, and over time it will get easier and easier. Thoughts, feelings, and emotions are all a part of our daily lives and there are ways to navigate through them so they no longer cause us to feel pain in the intensity that holds us back. So be patient and kind to yourself...you deserve it!!
If you've found this helpful even a little, please feel free to share it with anyone you think might benefit. The world needs love and compassion right now, more than ever, and we all don't have to be held prisoner by our own pasts and then hide in the shadows because of it...we can break free and more people need to realize they truly do hold the key. Come on over to www.SusanDascenzi.com if you want to learn more.
Wishing you love and joy,